My 5th and 6th session with my Jungian Analyst
We had a 2 week gap since the last session, and on the 5th session I felt like I talked a lot about what had been happening in my life and never really got much feedback from my analyst. I have to be honest, I was left with a feeling that I did not get anything out of the session at all. Because of this I have decided to combine both sessions in one Blog.
In this blog post, I will recount my experiences from the sixth session with my analyst, where I delved into a topic that has been weighing heavily on my mind. Prior to this session, I had expressed my dissatisfaction with the lack of feedback in the previous session and decided to combine my reflections on both sessions into a single blog entry. The focus of the sixth session was coping with the profound pain of losing someone without any explanation, leading to a lack of closure in the grieving process. Here, I will share the insights I gained from my analyst's response and the importance of incorporating love, kindness, and meditation as tools to navigate this challenging journey.
The Need for Closure As the session commenced, I approached my analyst with a deeply troubling question that has haunted me: How does one cope when individuals vanish from our lives without an explanation, leaving us with an indescribable sense of loss and no closure? The absence of understanding regarding what transpired can generate immense anguish, as we find ourselves endlessly pondering the myriad of potential reasons behind their disappearance. It is within this context that I sought guidance and a path towards healing.
The Role of Love and Kindness in the Grieving Process In response to my heartfelt query, my analyst offered an insightful perspective that shifted my focus towards love and kindness. According to their counsel, one of the most effective ways to navigate the grieving process under such circumstances is to actively cultivate thoughts and emotions rooted in love and kindness. By intentionally bringing these sentiments to the forefront of our awareness, we can create a healing space within ourselves.
Meditation as a Tool for Raising Loving and Kind Thoughts To enhance the integration of love and kindness into our grieving process, my analyst suggested incorporating meditation practices tailored to raising these specific thoughts. Meditation serves as a powerful tool for quieting the mind, allowing us to explore our inner landscape with greater clarity and intentionality. By engaging in meditation techniques designed to evoke feelings of love and kindness, we can foster a compassionate inner dialogue and foster a sense of peace amidst the uncertainties surrounding the loss.
The Power of Love and Kindness: Finding Meaning in the Unknown Embracing love and kindness in the face of unexplained loss empowers us to transcend the limitations of uncertainty. Rather than dwelling on the endless possibilities, we shift our focus to the importance of fostering a nurturing environment within ourselves. By directing our energy towards self-compassion, empathy, and understanding, we create a space where healing can take place, even in the absence of concrete answers. It is through this intentional practice that we can find solace and cultivate a sense of meaning amidst the unknown.
In combining my reflections on the fifth and sixth sessions with my analyst, I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Despite feeling unheard in the previous session, the sixth session provided invaluable insights into coping with unexplained loss and the quest for closure. By harnessing the power of love, kindness, and meditation, I learned to shift my perspective and embrace a path of self-compassion and healing. While the questions surrounding the vanished individuals in my life may remain unanswered, I have found solace in the profound journey of love and kindness within myself.
He then said that the most selfish thing one can do on this planet is to send love to somebody else. Because in order to do that you have to activate your own love circuits in the brain.
Another important fact about myself that I discussed with my analyst was that every time I contact someone, and I do not hear back from that person straight away, that my mind goes to some really dark places and scenarios. I always had this patterns of thoughts and I asked him if this is normal. He then said that not normal and that I get a lot of abandonment anxiety and that he is starting to wonder what things were like for me in my childhood.
This session with my analyst shed light on a significant aspect of my emotional landscape—abandonment anxiety and its potential ties to my childhood experiences. By confronting the impact of delayed responses and the distressing thought patterns they trigger, I have embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Although the session left me longing for more insight, it also served as a catalyst for a deeper exploration of my past and a renewed commitment to understanding and nurturing my present self. With each step forward, I am dedicated to unraveling the complexities of my emotional journey and embracing the transformative power of self-reflection and growth.